It is well known that the divorce rate in the United Stated hovers around 40-50 percent. Thus, divorce can be an unfortunate fact of life despite everyone’s best efforts to make married life work. Plus, divorce affects everyone involve from the spouses to the children involved. So, you want to use the best and most peaceful method of divorce for everyone’s mental and physical well-being. That is where divorce mediation comes into play.
Mediation is a better method of settling divorce cases when compared to other methods, notably litigation. Despite what we see on TV or read in the news, divorce can be a smooth experience depending on how you and your spouse handle it. Whether you’re not compatible with your spouse or know divorce is the right move, mediation could be a great way to see you through with minimum difficulty.
Below are five important reasons why you should choose mediation over litigation
1. Cost Effective
If you have ever been a party in a litigation or know someone who has, you will know the path to resolution can be tough, costly and the outcome is never certain. For example, in June 2008, a Wall Street journal article revealed that the average cost of litigating a divorce is circa $78,000 while the average cost of a mediated divorce is less than $7,000. That is a large difference and can make the divorce less contentious and more affordable.
2. Less Stress
The litigation process is long, arduous, and grueling. Summons, complaints, petitions, responses, discovery, and possible investigations are all process oriented, which means they have their own unique timeline you have to surrender to. Mediation is less drawn out than litigation. It does not require parties to be represented by attorneys, and does not require judges to make decisions. You control the ability to make your own decisions. Even if the differences are non-reconcilable, mediation provides a stress-free civilized discourse for an orderly property division, child support or alimony as the case may be.
3. Level of Neutrality
A mediator is an uninterested, unbiased neutral facilitator. They have no interest in the outcome of the process, they are right in the middle. Their only interest is to help the parties reach a sustainable agreement that caters for each parties’ interest and concerns. In litigation, you face the stress of a lawyer who may be seeking a nice payday rather than the best outcome.
4. Sense of Control
Who is in a better positioned to call the shots in relation to the future of your family: you or a Judge? It’s much better to spend your time resolving your future with your spouse and a trained professional. Mediation allows for greater control over the process. Besides, when people have a resolution imposed on them by a higher authority, it’s human nature for them to engage so called “dirty play” to get their desired outcome. When you attend and actively participate in mediation, you and the other party retain control over your case. You don’t place your case, and what could be a large part of your future, in the hands of a third party to make a decision.
Divorce proceedings come with testimony and that can become public record. It means that every secret that was sacred and all your dirty laundry exposed in the proceeding is now up for public knowledge. That can become hurtful to all involved and cause deep divides between family members. Mediation is surreptitious as you won’t have to worry about the impact of your decisions on your business, reputation, public image, or those you care for.
At Family Mediation LLC, we understand separation and divorce happens. We understand the process of separation and divorce, and how divorce can hurt and be painful on a very raw level. Thus, we aim to help you use mediation as a means to get your divorce done as smoothly and cleanly as possible. That means providing an experience where the feeling leaves you breathing easy and not feeling like you are a ping-pong ball being hurled about by the paddles of lawyers and judges. Contact us today to get your free consultation and learn how we can help! We are located in Huntersville NC and serve the greater Charlotte and Lake Norman area.