Pick someone you like and get along with! Choosing a divorce mediator can be difficult. First of all, who is available in your area, and does their availability match mine. But, most importantly, is this a person I want to trust to help us negotiate and resolve our separation, divorce, and/or custody issues? Do I like and trust this person? Is this person competent, experienced, and trained in handling matters such as these? Choosing a mediator you do not get a good initial vibe from can be a recipe for disaster.
Secondly, consider what experience and training your mediator has. A lot of divorce mediators are not lawyers and have no idea about the law, or the current state of our court system. This is valuable because a mediator with this type of experience can provide you with real world options and scenarios of what may happen in the event this action goes to court. Divorce mediators without this type of experience often have no idea of what can happen if you are unable to reach an agreement. Consider whether your divorce and separation mediator is also a licensed attorney with experience with similar matters.
Finally, what is this going to cost me? And, you should not get a vague response to this. Seriously, how much am I going to be paying for divorce mediation costs, and is this going to be worth it versus going to court? Many mediators will not give you a straight answer on this - well it depends is a common response. Instead, demand to know upfront how much your fees will be, and how much time, effort, and money you are going to devote to this process. While mediation is often highly successful, not all cases settle, and you need to be aware of your expenses, and the cost / benefit analysis, of attempting to settle your case before litigation. Please be aware that mediation is almost always the less expensive option versus going to court, spending a lot of money, and letting a judge who barely knows you decide the outcome of what could be your financial future, and / or child custody and support obligation. Once an order is set, it is not easily set aside or modifiable.
Family Mediation LLC is located in Huntersville NC and provides mediation services for a wide array of issues, but primarily for those involving family law, diving marital assets, setting spousal support (if necessary), and determining and implementing child support. Contact us if you wish to schedule a consultation.