How Do I Pick a Divorce Mediator?

Pick someone you like and get along with! Choosing a divorce mediator can be difficult. First, who is available in your area, and does their availability match yours? But, most importantly, is this a person I want to trust to help us negotiate and resolve our separation, divorce, and/or custody issues? Do I like and trust this person? Is this person competent, experienced, and trained in handling matters such as these? Choosing a mediator you do not get a good initial vibe from can be a recipe for disaster. 

Secondly, consider what experience and training your mediator has. Many divorce mediators are not lawyers. A mediator who is also an attorney with courtroom experience can describe real-world options and what may happen if the case goes to court. Mediators without that experience may be less able to explain what can happen if you are unable to reach an agreement. Consider whether your divorce and separation mediator is also a licensed attorney with experience with similar matters. 

Finally, what is this going to cost me? And, you should not get a vague response to this. Seriously, how much am I going to be paying for divorce mediation costs, and is this going to be worth it versus going to court? Many mediators will not give you a straight answer on this; “Well, it depends” is a common response. Instead, demand to know upfront how much your fees will be, and how much time, effort, and money you are going to devote to this process. While mediation is often highly successful, not all cases settle, and you need to be aware of your expenses, and the cost-benefit analysis of attempting to settle your case before litigation. Please be aware that mediation is almost always the less expensive option versus going to court, spending a lot of money, and letting a judge who barely knows you decide the outcome of what could be your financial future, and/or child custody and support obligation. Once an order is entered, it is not easily set aside or modified. 

Mediation Solutions is located in Huntersville, NC, and provides mediation services for a wide array of issues, but primarily those involving family law: dividing marital assets, setting spousal support (if necessary), and determining and implementing child support. Contact us if you wish to schedule a consultation.